AFP – We’re familiar with terms like “helicopter parents” or “cosseting parents”, often used to describe overprotective parenting styles. However, this cautious approach has faced criticism from experts who argue that it can hinder a child’s emotional growth. Instead, they advocate for “lighthouse parenting”, a model that promotes greater independence and self-reliance. The concept of “lighthouse parenting” was introduced by paediatrician specialising in adolescent medicine Dr Ken Ginsburg. In particular, he outlined its benefits in the book Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust (2015). In it, he explained that parents must serve as a beacon for their offspring. “We must make certain they don’t crash against the rocks, but trust they have the capacity to learn to ride the waves on their own,” he writes. This educational model encourages parents to give their children more freedom in their actions, while clearly indicating the boundaries that must not be overstepped. Because helping children to become more autonomous doesn’t mean letting them do anything and everything. Children need to be guided and supported in their choices and questioning, without negative judgement or preconceived ideas. “By being there to provide (your kids) with support and guidance, but not just solving the problems for them, it allows them to feel like they have the tools to tackle things that life may throw at them,” said American psychotherapist Joe Farrell to Parents magazine. This way, once the child has left the family nest, they’ll be able to adapt. Unlike their peers who were overly cosseted during their early years. In a study published in 2019, a research team from Florida State University found that students with helicopter parents were more likely to experience school burnout than those with less control-ling upbringings. Experts agree that parental overprotection is detrimental to a child’s development. Adolescents and young adults who experienced helicopter parenting in most of their early years show more depressive and anxiety symptoms, as well as socialisation difficulties. LETTING GO TO BE A BETTER PARENT One would think that all these research findings would be enough to discourage fathers and mothers from becoming “hyper-parents” who over-invest in their toddler’s life to ensure their absolute well-being. But it hasn’t had that effect. A survey conducted by Morning Consult for the New York Times revealed that 74 per cent of American parents have already made medical and other appointments for their adult children. This tendency to overprotect can be explained, in part, by the pressure on parents to ensure the safety, success and happiness of their offspring. Social networks and the comparison culture they promote have a lot to do with it. To foster children’s development and ease the burden on parents, the lighthouse parenting model advocates letting go. “I understand the desire to be very involved and wanting to know all the ins and outs of your child’s life. But you do get to that point, as they age, that they need to have their own life. “So, as they get older, you’re gradually stepping back,” psychotherapist Joe Farrell tells Parents. Like any parenting style, lighthouse parenting isn’t for every family. Some children need more attention than others, and will thrive best in a stricter, but not authoritarian, framework. Some Internet users are amused by the proliferation of parenting terms. Helicopter parents, bulldozer parents, tiger parents, snowplow parents and now light-house parents. The list goes on and on, attesting to the popularity of labelling everything to do with raising children. But when it comes to the latest buzzword, the main people involved are rather circumspect. “My husband (not on any social media) came across an article about this lighthouse thing and forwarded it to me with the comment: ‘...so, normal, regular parenting???’,” recounts a mother on the Reddit forum.From here on out, it gets real for the Washington Huskies. That’s not to suggest the first two months of the college basketball season didn’t matter, but the caliber of opponents will exponentially increase for the UW men, who clobbered New Jersey Institute of Technology (NJIT) 90-53 on Sunday afternoon in their nonconference finale. The Highlanders (2-12), who have lost 14 straight road games, were overmatched and undermanned against Washington, which executed a flawless paint-by-numbers performance in front of 6,779 at Alaska Airlines Arena. The largest blowout of the season for UW allowed Sprinkle to rest starters, empty the bench and get a long look at seldom-used reserves. The Huskies also welcomed back senior forward Wilhelm Breidenbach who finished with 10 points and five rebounds in his first outing since sustaining a concussion on Dec. 18. “I was having symptoms right after and I couldn't play in our last game and was just getting back into practice,” said Breidenbach who converted 3 of 4 shots, including two 3-pointers. “But it's been fine. It's a good group of guys, so it's easy to easy to get back into the group.” Washington missed Breidenbach during its previous game when they lost 79-70 to Seattle U and was outrebounded 36-33. “We're totally different and you can see how much we missed him against Seattle U,” Sprinkle said. “Everything flows better with him in the game. We're a more normal team offensively, and then defensively we're way better because he knows coverages. He's played a lot of basketball. He rebounds and his size.” Forward Great Osobor added: “He just changes us in a way, like he's one of our highest IQ players and he’s 6-10. He just makes reads that come natural to him. ... It's stuff you can't teach he does, and he just makes us a better team.” Before his earliest departure of the season, Osobor, who had team-high tying 12 points and six rebounds in 17 minutes, connected on his first three-pointer of the season after missing eight attempts. Osobor also orchestrated the game’s biggest highlight when he pushed the pace on a fast break and delivered a pass through a thicket of defenders to a streaking Tyler Harris who flushed a crowd-pleading two-hand dunk for a 58-30 lead with 15:52 left. “When I got the rebound, my mind says, ‘Just go’,” Osobor said. “It’s just natural for me and I've been doing it my whole life. ... I see Tyler rim running. I’d already had one or two turnovers at that point, and the gap was kind of tight. “Then I thought, ‘Is this a bad pass?’ Maybe and then I just threw anyway and it got to where it needed to go and Tyler did the rest.” Speaking of firsts, backup center KC Ibeweke, who appeared in just four games before Sunday, scored for the first time and finished with nine points on 3-for-5 shooting in 16 minutes. “I thought he played hard,” Sprinkle said. “He did a really good job in ball screen defense. He did a lot of stuff the casual fan, they have no idea because they don't know what we're supposed to do defensively. “He executed all those and I'm proud of him, because we're going to need him. We’re going to need his size and his girth, In Big Ten play, he's got to play meaningful minutes for us.” Following a sporadic start, it took Washington about 10 minutes to seize control. After Osobor spun free for a layup, guard Tyree Ihenacho drove to the rim for a basket and collected a steal for a fastbreak layup that capped a 6-0 run, which put UW up 32-18 with 6:30 left in the first half. Minutes later, freshman guard Jase Butler drained an open 3-pointer off a feed from Butler that gave the Huskies a 42-22 lead just before the break. Washington led 46-26 at halftime and outscored NJIT 44-27 in the second half thanks in large part to freshman guard Zoom Diallo who finished with a career-high five assists and had 10 of his 12 points after the intermission. Sebastian Robinson had 16 points, Tim Moore 14 and Ari Fulton 11 for the Highlanders, which shot 37.3% from the field and converted 3 of 17 three-pointers. Meanwhile, Washington shot 55.7% on field goals, including 10 of 24 on 3-pointers and converted 12 of 14 free throws. The Huskies has more rebounds (33-29), assists (21-5), steals (12-2), bench points (47-4) and fewer turnovers (5-13). “We didn't get sloppy today,” Sprinkle said. “Sometimes in those games, you can get sloppy and guys try to do too much, but I thought we did a great job sharing the basketball and only had five turnovers. ... When we're passing the ball well and making the extra pass, those are the games where we go 10 of 24 from three.” Immediately after the game, the Huskies (9-4, 0-2) began preparing for Thursday’s pivotal matchup at home against Maryland (11-2, 1-1), which starts an 18-game trek through the Big Ten. “As a staff, we’ll get going tonight,” Sprinkle said. “I want our guys to get away, relax, get some treatment and enjoy this win. Like I said, winning at this level is hard. You have to be able to enjoy it. But once midnight hits, we got to, we got to turn our attention to Maryland.” The Terrapins are ranked 10 th in the NET and have rarely been tested while outscoring opponents by 26.2 points, which is tops among Division I teams. Maryland boasts a high-powered offense that ranks 10 th in the country in scoring (87.2 points per game) as well as a resilient defense that’s 13 th nationally in points allowed (61.1). “Obviously, it’s great team coming in,” Osobor said. “We already know they've been killing it all year and it's exciting. It’s why you come to Washington. So, I'm excited. “I feel like our team, we've had ups and downs, but one thing is, we’ve learned each game is who we are. And as long as we can keep establishing our identity and doing things we want to do, then I think we'll take it head on and handle these game one game at a time.” Note: --- UW fifth-year center Franck Kepnang who has played two games this season due to a knee injury is expected to return in 2-3 weeks, Sprinkle said. --- UW freshman forward Dominique Diomonde, who signed last week, is in France and awaiting a visa, which would allow him to travel to Seattle and play for the Huskies. “I wish I knew an exact date,” Sprinkle said. “It could be tomorrow he gets on a plane or it could be in two weeks. It just depends when the embassy over there give him his visa.” BOX SCORE
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